FRONT PAGE NEWS: 20 Years ago it was called 'influenced' now known as 'grooming'. I as the 17 year old 'victim' was shamed and the 40 year old 'abuser' walked free. I was prosecuted for the crime of 'obtaining a service by deception' I wasn't old enough to 'technically commit' it - I had to be 21 to hire a car..I was 18 by then, even though I didn't even 'obtain the service'. It took 2 years to go through the Courts - I had 5 Court hearings pleading 'Not Guilty' - no one looked at the facts - or bothered to hear my voice. In the end I pleaded guilty to put an end to it all. I was held captive, raped and tortured. The truth of my abuse came out but nothing was done to the abuser. My punishment by family was a forced arranged marriage. Now 20 years on, I'm not the same - I am a survivor. I'm here to tell my story to let others know they are not alone and to not suffer in silence. Life is for living. Make your list of Happy Moments grow. WINGS tells the truth about this Newspaper article. - Sunny Angel x
After the horrific torture in 1997, I escaped with Police assistance. The Predator came for me once again. This time I was seeking peace in a Homeless Shelter. He threated to Petrol Bomb it. I asked the Police for help, I asked everyone for help...but everyone turned me away. I had no other choice but to turn to suicide attempts to end the pain. Everything was noted. The Predator/Groomer/Rapist was STILL ALLOWED TO WALK FREE TO THIS DAY...and I was prosecuted for HIS CRIMES and punished by my loved ones under the label of 'Honour'.
The Police report shows that in April 1998 - I Had informed the Police of the number of calls I had received and how threatened I had felt receiving them.
14th April 1998 The Police filed it as NO CRIME
15th April 1998 I was called in the afternoon at the Homeless Shelter and told there will be no charges against my Predator / Rapist.
16th April 1998 - The Predator targets me once again and turns up at the shelter - I'm forced to lock myself in my room at the Homeless shelter and attempt to end my life.
*Chapter 17 - Fred - Wings*
These scanned notes have the following details in handwriting:
Admitted to ACU for 4 days mid - April following O/d
Awaiting trial for credit card fraud -end May
B& B Chertsey/Woking - From Indian Hindu family - One older, one younger brother
Relationship last year or so with a Muslim man - he was abusive +++ physically, sexually, emotionally - sadistic + violent++ with history of ABH & GBH
History of abusive relationship. western on outlook - dress, drink, drugs but passive ++ in relationship
Living with parents - has left home x3.
was briefly living at WASH (Homeless shelter) asked to leave because of ex boyfriend's threats to petrol bomb WASH.
19 year old girl from Indian Hindu family with chronic low esteem. recently (last year or so) been in a relationship with a man who seems to be sadistic & psychopathic. Despite previous admission & O/d's, no clear evidence of mental illness per se.
Had counselling at Crescent - stopped because of her ex-boyfriend's potential threat to their staff.
My Mum's Court statement from 2001 highlighting my ordeal. I was engaged in November 1998, and married off just 6 weeks after my Crown Court case. I needed time to heal but instead received further abuse. I share my experiences of Dowry abuse to help safeguard others.
Just days before the overdose in the Homeless Shelter in 1998, I asked my GP and the Police for help - No one helped - Sadly there were no laws for Domestic Violence, Forced Marriage or Stalking then. Thankfully now, my experiences are not wasted and I can help others. #Wings
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My name is Sunny Angel, I made the media front page 20 years ago. Headlines read ‘Girl influenced by Older Man’. I was stalked and groomed by my Predator at 17 he was 40. He forced me to commit crimes I wasn’t old enough to, I was charged in Court and he walked free. Media called it ‘influenced’ and NOT grooming. Asian girls can be groomed too it was just harder to seek help. If only grooming was taken seriously so many victims wouldn’t have suffered needlessly. I was failed by everyone. The authorities didn’t want to get involved with the ‘culture’ and my family didn’t want the ‘shame’. Every door was slammed closed on my face. I had nowhere to go but the homeless shelter to end my life. My turning point was when death rejected me. I am a Survivor of many things, grooming, rape, forced arranged marriage, honour abuse violence and being a young widow at 25. I chose to write the book WINGS and speak out now because I felt I was ready to share my experiences and I wanted to show others it’s ok to speak out and that they are not alone. We can change our mindsets by self love and self acceptance, we don’t need other people’s opinions to victim shame us. Pen to paper was my therapy – writing my book WINGS was self healing it helped unlock my silence. Self empowerment allows us to view from another perspective, we are not defined by our path. We have a better future ahead than the past we leave behind. The best days of our lives are still to come – if you allow them. What hasn’t killed me has made me stronger and I have the scars as souvenirs and turned them into art, I’m not going to hide them anymore. I am covered in over a thousand scars. In 1997 I had over 60 open wounds on my back when I escaped the abuser. 20 years on many of those scars from cigarette burns, whips, glass cuts still remained. My daughter aged 5 asked me what they were, I told her the truth and that they are a part of me. I can not erase the past but I can change my future. We can no longer hide behind the umbrella of Honour/Izatt – abuse is real and it has to end, that’s why I chose to speak out. So many girls are suffering in silence – I wanted to encourage and give hope to others. I hope you enjoy the book.
In May 2017, I watched the BBC program ‘Three Girls’ and the Grooming triggered me. I contacted Nazir Afzal via Twitter to share my story – He read my book and gave me a Five Star review
"This is a must read memoir of someone who has been victimised by many including those who claimed to love her. It will warm hearts as Sunny's strength and resilience shines through challenge after challenge. It's also essential for practitioners so that they can begin to understand what victims endure when they get things wrong "
Nazir Afzal OBE - Former Chief Prosecutor and Chief Executive of the Association of Police & Crime Commissioners
I also contacted Mandy Sanghera whom I have been following on Twitter – Mandy also gave me a Five Star Review
“What an great book by an brave woman who has experienced so much abuse and trauma issues like, rape , grooming things Asians. Never want to talk about . I was blown away by the no end emotional abuse experienced by Sunita . Yet she never let anyone destroy her soul or self worth. It's moving book from start to finish. The book will give you an inside to honour violence and how it has an impact on ones mental health. Many people will relate to this as it shows that many young people are conditioned by society to never speak out because of honour. What really got me was how Sunita has held onto her sense of humour and remained positive I totally loved Sunita spirit.”
Mandy Sanghera International Human Rights Activist
"At work, I used to sign for the parcels that came to reception. There was an Asian delivery man who would take my signature and always gaze at me, unembarrassed, with a piercing stare. This was slightly creepy, although, he was quite good-looking, with a goatee beard, but I didn’t pay too much attention at the time.”
“Around this time, I began to sense that I was being watched. When I was driving, a car would flash me for no reason. Talking to a friend in the street, I would feel someone staring at me. But, when I looked around, no one stood out.”
“If you don’t do as I tell you, I will throw acid on your mum’s face. I’ll stab your dad. I’ll kill your brothers. If you don’t do what I tell you, this is what’s going to happen. These are the consequences’.
Wings – Sunny Angel
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